Some reflections from my own perspective after seven decades of analyzing and reflecting on human behavior
First of all: generalization is a killer of truth. We are unique individuals and everyone has his/her own story why a certain behavior happens. Those who don’t spent time on critical self reflection are the first ones who are manipulated by the crowd behavior or by those who know how to make mental slaves.
Culture, religion, ideologies, education given by biased people, social environment … are all contributing to the fake prisons that keep a society in a stronghold.
Somehow the external influence of media and crowd behavior, is for many overruling the objectivity and the reasonable dealing with situations.
Those who want to abuse power, know very well the rules of the game how to gain more power while doing totally unethical things without being halted.
My take on the list:
1. Lying takes a toll: this is correct, but it is not so that everyday we constantly decide whether to lie or to tell the truth. Those who live consciously and live to become a better version of themselves every day, don’t create this: It’s a sacred decision to never tell one lie because in their inner reflection, they found out that a lie kills the own sacredness of being. A lie becomes impossible, even when it means death, because a lie causes a constant death to life again and again, while the human death only happens once. Being honest creates inner strength while a lie takes the building down and poisons the whole area.
2. Tragic movies make us think deeper. This implies also the other fact: violent movies will make us more violent. People that are not self aware, copy their behavior from others. They have no backbone, so they need to copy from others or from unreal situations in a movie. Some people don’t watch movies with emotional content for that reason. If you can’t build up emotional intelligence inside, then you are prone to what others feed you as how they see it. The media often uses the attention gathering headlines to have more viewers (=money). Especially the negative content is drastically enlarged because they know that most people kick on extremes such that it’s easy for them to have a clear opinion.
I would rephrase it: Tragic Movies hijack our emotional system and prevent us from living from our own consciousness and obtaining more emotional intelligence inside ourselves.
3. Aggression feels rewarding. Aggression creates a black/white situation where no longer the content of the discussion is important, but where the high urge to be the “smart one who is right” is more important than the need for a solution. Nobody wants to be “the loser”, while in fact the aggressor already declared himself the loser by his aggression and his inability to solve the issue. Overpowering others by violence or force is their only tool.
4. People behave better when they feel watched. This is again generalizing. Those who live consciously, have no need to live that double life. They don’t need social acceptance. They follow their own honest guide. If they don’t, they will experience as a betrayal of their own true core.
5. Mowing your lawn can boost your mood. Simply because of giving purpose to that moment. In our life, unconsciously, all of us want to experience of doing something useful. The slowing down from the hectic world makes it even a moment of meditation for some. However, when it’s declared by the mower as an obligation coming from someone else, it will have the inverse effect.
6. Unhappy people criticize more. As humans, we want to feel our emotions clearer. That’s why we tend to pull everything more to the extremes, which makes it easier to judge. Having feelings of unhappiness can be amplified by more negativity, by complaining,… It is true that where we focus on, will become our reality. Moto riders learn this from the beginning: if you drive on a curvy road and you are looking at the tree in the curve and create fear that you eventually might hit it, the chances are very high that you will hit the tree. Always look where you want to go, never what you don’t w ant.
7. “the wrong side of the bed”: For this, I’m convinced that there is no ‘wrong side’. We are only conditioned already from our birth that a certain position simply feels better. This conditioning remains in our body. Again, this has to do to what level we are able to surpass our subconscious dependency. Autosuggestions to clear certain dependencies can be used.
8. Harder decisions are often avoided. Here it depends on the purpose of the decision. Consciously living can overrule this to the point of “doing what needs to be done according our inner guiding system. If a hard decision will bring a solution, you will simply do it unless you have no backbone and inner strength. It also makes no sense to take a hard decision if the disadvantages are bigger than the gain. It all depends on the inner emotional intelligence which path we are going to take.
9. Quick decisions often lead to regret: every decision has its pros and cons. When a decision is taken in a hurry, it’s not a decision of our total being. When our total being is involved, we tend to take a decision to the best of our abilities. A fast decision doesn’t allow to check with our abilities. Hence overthinking and regrets. A quiet mind allows our deeper guiding system to come forward. This will bring the assurance that we couldn’t do better.
10. Placebo effect is real. This points to the effect and the impact of the mind on the condition of our health. The placebo guides the mind to release the path towards healing. Our mind creates the loop of illness, even when there is nothing. Ref the phantom pain that is felt when some part of the body is missing.
11. Calorie charts don’t guarantee healthier choices: it’s a combination of the fact that we don’t want to torture ourselves, and the impact of the mind on our healthy eating process.
12. People often miss what is right in front of them: it’s all about focus. We trend to seek solutions further away from ourselves.
13. Happiness comes from the present moment. You can only create and experience the current moment. The pain from the past cannot change because the past is no longer available and the uncertainty for the future can never bring certainty because the future remains unknown. This means that the fulness of happiness can only be experienced in the now.
14. Men with deep voices. A deep voice is more attractive because it imposes calmness and creates a feeling of connected to life and having it under control. Less faithful: probably because of the fear that others also will like this guy for the same reason as you do.
15. Everyone uses stereotypes: because it’s easier to describe a certain group than seeing the tiny differences in uniqueness. We want to be able to classify everything in an easy way. (Cold-warm/ nice-ugly/ smart-stupid/ rich/poor,… ). It’s not such that it always is used, but certainly often.
Not all truths are the same. It all depends on our own progress and awareness way of living. Feelings and ideas are always strict personally. We don’t know them; we only can assume that it’s similar to ours. Everyone is trapped in a personal jail
Writings like this makes me think about my own view and experiences. Self reflection makes things more conscious instead of living on the automatic pilot. And... noticing that there is a world of differences that exists in all possible scales of grey.
Some reflections from my own perspective after seven decades of analyzing and reflecting on human behavior
First of all: generalization is a killer of truth. We are unique individuals and everyone has his/her own story why a certain behavior happens. Those who don’t spent time on critical self reflection are the first ones who are manipulated by the crowd behavior or by those who know how to make mental slaves.
Culture, religion, ideologies, education given by biased people, social environment … are all contributing to the fake prisons that keep a society in a stronghold.
Somehow the external influence of media and crowd behavior, is for many overruling the objectivity and the reasonable dealing with situations.
Those who want to abuse power, know very well the rules of the game how to gain more power while doing totally unethical things without being halted.
My take on the list:
1. Lying takes a toll: this is correct, but it is not so that everyday we constantly decide whether to lie or to tell the truth. Those who live consciously and live to become a better version of themselves every day, don’t create this: It’s a sacred decision to never tell one lie because in their inner reflection, they found out that a lie kills the own sacredness of being. A lie becomes impossible, even when it means death, because a lie causes a constant death to life again and again, while the human death only happens once. Being honest creates inner strength while a lie takes the building down and poisons the whole area.
2. Tragic movies make us think deeper. This implies also the other fact: violent movies will make us more violent. People that are not self aware, copy their behavior from others. They have no backbone, so they need to copy from others or from unreal situations in a movie. Some people don’t watch movies with emotional content for that reason. If you can’t build up emotional intelligence inside, then you are prone to what others feed you as how they see it. The media often uses the attention gathering headlines to have more viewers (=money). Especially the negative content is drastically enlarged because they know that most people kick on extremes such that it’s easy for them to have a clear opinion.
I would rephrase it: Tragic Movies hijack our emotional system and prevent us from living from our own consciousness and obtaining more emotional intelligence inside ourselves.
3. Aggression feels rewarding. Aggression creates a black/white situation where no longer the content of the discussion is important, but where the high urge to be the “smart one who is right” is more important than the need for a solution. Nobody wants to be “the loser”, while in fact the aggressor already declared himself the loser by his aggression and his inability to solve the issue. Overpowering others by violence or force is their only tool.
4. People behave better when they feel watched. This is again generalizing. Those who live consciously, have no need to live that double life. They don’t need social acceptance. They follow their own honest guide. If they don’t, they will experience as a betrayal of their own true core.
5. Mowing your lawn can boost your mood. Simply because of giving purpose to that moment. In our life, unconsciously, all of us want to experience of doing something useful. The slowing down from the hectic world makes it even a moment of meditation for some. However, when it’s declared by the mower as an obligation coming from someone else, it will have the inverse effect.
6. Unhappy people criticize more. As humans, we want to feel our emotions clearer. That’s why we tend to pull everything more to the extremes, which makes it easier to judge. Having feelings of unhappiness can be amplified by more negativity, by complaining,… It is true that where we focus on, will become our reality. Moto riders learn this from the beginning: if you drive on a curvy road and you are looking at the tree in the curve and create fear that you eventually might hit it, the chances are very high that you will hit the tree. Always look where you want to go, never what you don’t w ant.
7. “the wrong side of the bed”: For this, I’m convinced that there is no ‘wrong side’. We are only conditioned already from our birth that a certain position simply feels better. This conditioning remains in our body. Again, this has to do to what level we are able to surpass our subconscious dependency. Autosuggestions to clear certain dependencies can be used.
8. Harder decisions are often avoided. Here it depends on the purpose of the decision. Consciously living can overrule this to the point of “doing what needs to be done according our inner guiding system. If a hard decision will bring a solution, you will simply do it unless you have no backbone and inner strength. It also makes no sense to take a hard decision if the disadvantages are bigger than the gain. It all depends on the inner emotional intelligence which path we are going to take.
9. Quick decisions often lead to regret: every decision has its pros and cons. When a decision is taken in a hurry, it’s not a decision of our total being. When our total being is involved, we tend to take a decision to the best of our abilities. A fast decision doesn’t allow to check with our abilities. Hence overthinking and regrets. A quiet mind allows our deeper guiding system to come forward. This will bring the assurance that we couldn’t do better.
10. Placebo effect is real. This points to the effect and the impact of the mind on the condition of our health. The placebo guides the mind to release the path towards healing. Our mind creates the loop of illness, even when there is nothing. Ref the phantom pain that is felt when some part of the body is missing.
11. Calorie charts don’t guarantee healthier choices: it’s a combination of the fact that we don’t want to torture ourselves, and the impact of the mind on our healthy eating process.
12. People often miss what is right in front of them: it’s all about focus. We trend to seek solutions further away from ourselves.
13. Happiness comes from the present moment. You can only create and experience the current moment. The pain from the past cannot change because the past is no longer available and the uncertainty for the future can never bring certainty because the future remains unknown. This means that the fulness of happiness can only be experienced in the now.
14. Men with deep voices. A deep voice is more attractive because it imposes calmness and creates a feeling of connected to life and having it under control. Less faithful: probably because of the fear that others also will like this guy for the same reason as you do.
15. Everyone uses stereotypes: because it’s easier to describe a certain group than seeing the tiny differences in uniqueness. We want to be able to classify everything in an easy way. (Cold-warm/ nice-ugly/ smart-stupid/ rich/poor,… ). It’s not such that it always is used, but certainly often.
Not all truths are the same. It all depends on our own progress and awareness way of living. Feelings and ideas are always strict personally. We don’t know them; we only can assume that it’s similar to ours. Everyone is trapped in a personal jail
Writings like this makes me think about my own view and experiences. Self reflection makes things more conscious instead of living on the automatic pilot. And... noticing that there is a world of differences that exists in all possible scales of grey.
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You forgot the most important eye-opening lesson of them all..... making coffee in the morning!!!
Tim
I really like the life lessons this time 👍🏻😊
Really enjoyed this read 😀